The Internet has totally revolutionized the business of finding intimate encounters (and I don’t mean the paid kind). Guys no longer have to wait till the Friday night to hit on hot women at the bar. Now, with amazing advances to online chat, dating and social networking, guys can be hitting on beautiful women anytime they get a chance, and from the comfort and convenience of their own homes. I’m not suggesting that online encounters can ever replace actual human contact, but I am suggesting that online encounters, if done right, can actually increase actual human contact. Simply put, this means more sex. Life is too short to let another weekend pass you by. If you’re not having sex at least twice a month, either you’re not trying or there is something really wrong.
Here are the suggestions:
a. Join at least three dating websites – the more the merrier.
b. Post a handful of photos of yourself – pick your favourites.
c. Message as many hot, local women as you can – it’s a numbers game.
d. Don’t waste your time on women who won’t show you a picture.
e. Message and chat with as many attractive women as you can.
f. Wait about a week before inviting a woman to meet you in person.
g. Suggest the actual encounter, but let her decide where it should be.
h. If she’s unsure, suggest a drink somewhere for around 8:00 pm. This means you don’t have to buy her dinner and you can skip strait to the drinking.
i. Don’t waste much time on women who keep postponing a real life encounter. Insist that it’s not truly possible to get to know someone until you’ve actually met him or her in person.
j. Dress nice but not too nice. You don’t want to seem like a total bum nor a desperate nerd.
k. Ask a lot of questions, act intensely interested, and throw in lots of compliments (and not just on the way she looks).
l. Avoid talking about yourself. If you have to answer certain questions, avoid bragging or sounding arrogant. Women seem to sense that bragging is almost always a sign of insecurity and weakness.
m. View the encounter like an interview. She is being interviewed for a number of possible positions. It’s about what you want, and you’re finding out if she has what it takes. If you act nervous, she’ll smell weakness and likely head for the hills.
n. Have a backup plan in case it doesn’t work out. Example: Join some pals at a social, bar or party for “last call”. This way you haven’t put all your evening eggs in one basket. Women can smell desperation and will perceive you as weak. Some women might pity weak and desperate men, but they rarely sleep with them (even after they marry them).
o. Keep offering to buy rounds. The more alcohol the better. It’s almost always a right light if a woman refuses a drink or two (unless she’s in AA). Personally, I never waste my money buying drinks for the women I meet at a bar. However, buying drinks for your date is almost always a good investment.
p. If everything goes well, either stick with it or take her somewhere where dancing is available.
q. If she’s not interested in moving the encounter to another drinking establishment, tell her you’d like to show her your place. Better yet, mention something specific you would like to show her (and no not that).
r. If she’s the one to call the evening short, give her your number and tell her she can call you. Don’t get back to her unless she calls you.
s. Make sure you have a variety of alcoholic beverages at home. A woman might turn down a beer or some whiskey, and yet say yes to a nice glass of wine.
t. If you do manage to take her home, try playing her some of your favourite music. Tell her how much the music means to you, all the while probing her with more questions. Remember, she’s the one being interviewed, not you. The more you say, the more chances you have of saying something wrong.
u. At some point in the evening, when everything is going well, look at her intently and say something like: “My God, you are so beautiful.”
v. That would probably be as good a time as any to move in for the kiss. The best is when you move in, but you let her initiate the kiss. I’ll leave the rest to your discretion.
Now assuming you’re no Quasimodo or social deviant, this stuff should work most of the time. The key is to have the date, but not to depend on the date. If by 11.00 – 11:30 pm, things don’t look so sure, tell her you have an early morning and that you have to call it a night. This way you can still meet up with some friends by 12:00 am, or head off to a nightclub on your own. Always remember, it’s a numbers game. Unless you are exceptionally good looking, or you’re incredibly charismatic, you’ll just have to play the numbers game like the rest of us. Most importantly, never wonder if you’re doing things right or what she might be thinking of you. This is about what you want, and about what you’re thinking. She’s the one being interviewed, so it’s her job to impress you. If you are feeling nervous or anxious, and you can’t seem to help it, keep the conversation focused on her while you consume your first few drinks. Just keep staring intently, nodding your head like she just unveiled the cure for cancer, and say things like “wow”, or “that’s incredible”. In the end, remember that the only opinion that really matters is your own. Good luck.
